My friends wife left him several months ago. He had it all, a wonderful home, and a great family and all those wonderful assets that one hopes to acquire in the marriage. It all came crashing down. He of course had "no idea" how such a thing could happen... "The bills were paid, there was always food in the house, she had everything she wanted...I just dont get it" was his reply.
About a week later I ran into my friends future ex-wife and I asked her "what happened?"..... I was stunned by her reply; "Facebook" she said with a disgusted look on her face.
I confess I did not understand or believe her at first, but as she wove a tale of farmville, zynga poker, mafia wars, and old friends from the past that were continually popping up....she said she lost her lover to facebook. Her husband had gone from 30 minutes a day at the start, to being on facebook 6-10 hours a day 7 days a week. He no longer had time for her or the kids. How he ate breakfast, lunch. dinner in front of the computer...she would roll over in the middle of the night and he would not be in bed..."He would be in facebook" she stated.
The end came she said when it was time to take the kids to soccor one weekend morning. She said her husband had been up all night on facebook, and when she tried to rouse him he stated he thought he had the flu and was going to stay home in bed. Halfway to the soccer field she realized she had forgotten the teams drinks that she was to bring that weekend, so she turned around and headed home to get them... and of course when she walked in the house, there was her husband drinking coffee and on facebook chatting it up with an old "female aqcuaintance while playing mafia wars". There were no flu symptoms anymore...and she said she just snapped.
She said he made a weak attempt to reconcile...but when she told him she was sick of facebook he quickly changed the subject and ended the conversation...and this told her she needed to move on. It was a sad conversation...
They both have good attorneys now...and things are slated for court...and Im sitting here looking at how my time on the computer has increased since facebook came along. Not alot, but subtly it has been increasing. My wife and I always watch wheel of fortune together.... but last night I was on facebook, and when she called me to tell me come watch it... I replied back, "In a minute honey" and got there 25 minutes later...
If theres any moral to this story its probably "Dont do drugs!" My friend is addicted to facebook, it has cost him alot, and he cant see it because hes still busy doing facebook 12-18 hours a day...but when I talk to him he says hes hardly on it anymore. The similarities of my friends life, and a drug addicted person in denial are remarkable.
I guess an irony in this whole story is his future ex-wife who now refuses to even talk to him. She has moved on with her life and even met a wonderful new man who she says loves her and is good to her kids...and where did she meet him.... you guessed it....facebook. peace
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I think the moral to the story is that there are many kinds of affairs that have nothing to do with what we normally think of as an affair. It can be anything that takes your time and attention away from what is most important in your life. There are many things I like to do that take my time away from my family. Sometimes I go overboard. Sometimes Ken has to remind me I have too much on my plate. I'm trying to be better at not letting it get too full. I want to really listen when my husband says, come watch a movie with me. (although he fell asleep like he always does) I want to always remember to do things to make my husband feel special. Besides, if you add facebook to your phone you can do it while watching wheel of fortune!
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